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Tautology – tau·tol·o·gy [taw-tol-uh-jee] noun
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About this Blog // Lighting your world one word at a time
I don’t know about you, but I sometimes struggle to get moving on projects, book writing, speech writing, and radio show writing. You name it and I’m usually dragging myself to get it done.
What’s odd is it’s not that I don’t want to do it but I find so many other “worthy” things to do instead of my work – like clean the house, vacuum my car, read my emails, do my laundry (I’m odd like that) but I still have to get to it. I still have a responsibility to my editor, my team and others to do my work so sometimes even I need a nudge
I like that word “nudge.” It sounds funny and the spelling doesn’t look correct but the concept is powerful.
I found this great article by Rebecca Clark of Nudge Village that resonated with me and I wanted to share parts of it because maybe you’re a lot like me and you, “need a nudge”.
Have you ever had a family member, a friend, a co-worker, or even someone you barely know make a suggestion or comment that made a huge difference in your life? It may have been a simple remark, but it had a lasting impact on choices you made going forward? We call these “nudges.”
These little ideas, comments, and suggestions have the power to increase our self-confidence, encourage us to change direction in our lives, educate us on new possibilities, and instigate a new business, adventure or idea.
How can small, seemingly unimportant interactions hold this much power in our lives? I think the power of a nudge is this instinctively we know what we could or should do we just need a validation of it someone on the outside who sees what perhaps we don’t and they offer this “nudge” to help us move along…
I don’t mean your physical balance, although that is important, what I am asking about today is your “credit” in the accounts of worthy organizations. Things such as your volunteer activities, your kids’ school, your place of worship. What I find (more so at the holidays) is that many of you make great deposits and have a lot of credit with good organizations. Although that is a worthy endeavor, I just want to make sure that those who need you the most are not short changed.
Suzanne Bates wrote in a recent column that, “If you already have credit “in the bank” with volunteer events and community organizations, you don’t need to keep making deposits…”
I completely agree and I’ll take it one step further—instead of making deposits in things and organizations that will forget you over time, would you consider making deposits in the lives of those you claim to love and for whose well-being you are responsible? A consideration that is especially important at this season of Thanksgiving.
Yikes, today is going to be a tough love lesson. Don’t worry, if you get it right you’ll find more lasting joy and make memories for a lifetime, it all depends on where you choose to make your deposits. I know community groups will not be happy with me today but I also know that others who do not volunteer can fill in the gap you leave. Remember that power is a vacuum and if you step aside someone else who has little to no credit with volunteer events and community organizations can and will fill in the space. And good for them, it’s their turn to be giving back.
But not you. No, you’ve done enough – really you have.. So now as you’re winding down for the holiday season and as you plan the new year, it’s time to take a zero-based approach to accepting events and volunteer activities.
Funny how things come to mind – when you’re mindlessly watching birds take a bath, like how a few different types can be at the bath together – wait their turn and not seem to mind the other birds waiting and sometimes a few birds want the bath all to themselves. Most birds don’t like the occasional dove that comes by for a drink and blue birds don’t like anyone in their bath but the cardinals, wrens, and finches don’t seem to mind each other.
So my lesson today is simply this – do you let anyone come to your table? Do you welcome them or tolerate them? Do you treat them with kindness or let them fend for themselves, do you make a space for them or crowd them out. Believe it or not bird watching reminds me a lot about how people treat each other. I attended a committee meeting the other day. The blue jays were not happy to see others at “their” table. It wasn’t an issue of race or political affiliation but of ideas, perceived intelligence, and social standing.
It became very clear that not everyone was welcomed at that table and since I struggle to pay attention anyway and the meeting was boring I decided I’d watch the body language of each of the cast of characters, my version of watching my little birds at the bath, and I’ll admit it became a source of joy and sadness for me to observe. Since I wasn’t in charge I could only smile and nod at the other guests at the table – I offered water and coffee and a few jokes to help break the ice in hopes to bring them into the fold. Sometimes they spoke (in hushed tones) other times their tone for the conversation seemed to be edgy – probably because they instinctively knew how a few at the table viewed them so my attempt to bring them to the table and make sure they were part of the team didn’t work so well. I didn’t have much luck for two reasons…
1st – they allowed the posturing of the blue jays at the table mess with their head and thus they “kept their head down…”
2nd – those who really didn’t want them there – would not make eye contact or help them carry the ball – so to speak when they made a comment.
So it was a 2-way street… not feeling welcome and not being welcomed by a few at the table…